Thursday, April 30, 2009
I'd love to hear some of the creative things you're doing to calm the storm. Every child is so unique and special, but some of you really have GREAT ideas!!
Mihnovich Family- blog
We received some disturbing news about our children on Friday and need an army of saints skilled at wielding the Sword of the Spirit to lift up our children and pray for God to move powerfully and quickly on their behalf. We are so very confident that He is faithful and will work everything out according to His purposes! We are asking everyone to begin praying for them at 11:00 each day...when it is dusk in Ethiopia, for protection and release from bondage!!
Monday, April 27, 2009
I will never know her name or her story, but we had our moment. She reminds me that I don't want to miss out on the small opportunities to show love.
Simply love one another!!
(I have to add....we have a lot more in common now!!! I lost MY 4 front teeth in an accident:)
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Saturday, April 25, 2009
I can't believe today is our Referral-Versary!!! I have noooo idea who made up this fun name to describe the DAY we received the CALL, but I love it! We are celebrating all day long the most sought after, prayed for, yearned for, begged for, cried for day....referral day! We were on a business/vacation trip in Palm Beach Garden, FL when we received our CALL!!
I will never forget waking up at 5AM and Roger driving the two of us to the beach at sunrise. There is something about the ocean, for me that is one of the surest places to find peace. To see in person, God's mighty beauty. We sat on the warm sand, held hands and thanked God for what was to come. We had no idea that today was the day that would change our lives forever. All I knew was the sight of the waves crashing over and over reflected the *power* of my Savior. He was in total control of my life. I had waited so long to meet our baby girl. The glorious sunrise was a renewal to my spirit.
On the way back to the hotel, we stopped in the local Starbucks for coffee & scones. It was still early, but there were a few customers waiting. I gestured for the nice man in front of me to order (he smiled & said good morning) We chatted for a second, but when I looked at my hubby, his mouth was gaping wide open. What's wrong...I asked with a puzzled expression?? He sat down & sheepishly whispered to me...do you know who you were talking to??
That's my golf hero, Jack Nicklaus?
Whattttt???!!! I yanked his golf hat off his head and raced up to the nice man.
I smiled...Excuse me, Mr. Nicholson...you are my 15 year old son's golf HERO and he would be thrilled if you would sign his hat!!!! He won't believe I met you. (I really said that:)
He graciously signed my "sons" hat and shook my hand. I got a little shy & tongue tied, but I muttered a sweet, thank you!!!
Rog couldn't believe I got his autograph...he was quite impressed. Of course, I told him it was now his son's golf hat, but it was soooo cool to meet a huge legend, Mr. Jack Nicholson in person.
Rog gave me a funny look... honey, his name is Jack Nicklaus, not Nicholson...that's the movie star. Ohhhhhhh nooooo....I messed up my big moment, but I had the signed hat!!!:)
At 8:45 AM...we received our referral call from Terra Bailey!!! How do you even express the moment you first see the child God has chosen for your family? There are no words to describe the excitement opening up the email with the VERY first photo of your child. Love.
The day was magical from sunrise to sunset. Rog drove me back to the beach that evening and the sound of the waves took on a whole different meaning to me. Celebration. We have our Zoie. It's hard to believe it's been a year since we first met our girl. The adoption process is different for EVERY family, but the journey to love unites us all.
Look at me now:)
Here is our hilarious "Referral Call" video. There are 2, but I'll only make you watch the one that counts.... Enjoy:)
Friday, April 24, 2009
My fifth adoption hero... who exemplifies forgiveness and grace, is
Erin Smalley. She is a daughter and a sister and a friend. Everyone is drawn to her amazing spirit, hilarious sense of humor, passion for Jesus and joyous zest for life!! I no longer call her *just* my friend. She is my sister-in-law, my children’s Aunti and one of the biggest cheerleaders during our adoption.
I first learned that Erin was adopted early on in our friendship and was amazed at her attitude and spirit toward her adoptive parents. They adored their daughter and she adored them. Erin was always comfortable sharing or answering any of my questions concerning her adoption. Her favorite thing to say was….I grew in my mom’s heart.
I will never forget when Erin made the decision to contact her birth mother. Her adoption was domestic and closed, but with lots of support and encouragement from family and friends she started her search. It was not the reunion that Erin had dreamed about…the kind you see on Oprah. Her birth mother chose not to have contact with her for very personal reasons. She had not told anyone...her baby was a secret. She was a closet birth mother. I can’t imagine the pain this decision made in Erin’s heart, but I watched her respect and honor the decision with dignity and grace and forgiveness. She recently told me...I thought the contact was for my own needs, but in reality the phone call was for her, to bring her some type of freedom and peace.
Erin, thank you for showing me what it truly means to love someone unconditionally, to selflessly let go of your own needs and forgive someone despite their circumstances. You are a woman of grace. I’m thrilled to support and encourage you during YOUR adoption journey to your daughter waiting in China.
Adoption radically changes your life...from the inside out!
I'm thankful you are my sister.
Its been so special for me to share my 5 adoption heroes!! Each one played a unique part in helping us bring home our Zoie.
Now I need YOUR help...please take a moment & let me know who your adoption hero is & why. Someone that was a source of encouragement, support, inspiration, cheerleader, prayer warrior... My goal is to use these stories in the future to encourage anyone who is thinking about adopting.
You can email me at Karigib@gmail.com
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Adoption is a combination of all the things I'm afraid of. For years, I wanted to make the big jump, but was too afraid. I had no idea what was below... would the waters be too deep or dangerously choppy? Roger and I believed with all our hearts God wanted us to adopt a child. But we always came up with every excuse in the book NOT to adopt: *we have two older children *we are getting old *it's very expensive *life is too convenient... the bottom line, we were afraid!!
My third adoption hero is Jamie Jo Braner, who mentored me through the process from A to Z. She was the one who finally said….no more excuses!! Jamie was tough as nails when she needed to be, but promised she would hold our hands. She never let go. Our mentor helped us with every single piece of paperwork or document to complete the home study and dossier. I would often call confused about a form and she would race down the hill to help me (we’re neighbors:) In the adoption world…we call this part of the process *paper pregnancy* and its challenging and miserable and painful and frustrating.
She never let go. When I would whine about how hard the waiting was, she would pray and support and encourage. She never let go.
Jamie and her husband, Andy have dedicated their time and resources to help many families during the adoption process. During our wait for Zoie, they adopted a precious baby girl from Rwanda and are still waiting for their daughter in China. They host an adoption fellowship group… mentoring families every month in their community. Jamie Jo, thank you for holding on and never letting go during our crazy adoption journey. You held our hands so we could JUMP!!
The Braners are moving to Durango, CO on May 3rd....you will be dearly missed!!
Here is their blog to stay in touch...branerpartyof7
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Shaoey and Dot. It’s the cutest Chinese face with a bug on her nose. I picked it up and knew instantly I would need to get this for my daughter for Christmas. As I read the introduction from the authors… I started weeping. Just like their daughter, our nine year old daughter had prayed faithfully for an entire year that we would adopt!!
My third adoption hero... who exemplifies hope, is the Chapman family. They have been the voice for millions of orphans. They founded Shaohannah’s Hope, “which exists to enable children living without the love and hope of any earthly family to be adopted into “covenant homes.” This amazing family adopted three beautiful girls from China. They have provided thousands of families financial grants to offer support and hope.
This was the statement that moved me to tears…
“Adoption is a perfect picture of what God has done for each of us in making us His children through Christ. Psalm 68:5-6 tells us that as the Father to the fatherless, God delights in setting the lonely in families. It has been our experience that the scriptural mandate of caring for orphans, such as the one found in James 1:27 is really a wonderful invitation to experience God in a profound way by being a part of His sovereign plan for His precious children.”
I signed the front cover of the book…dated Christmas 2005. Dearest H, you are our ambassador in this adoption journey. God is using you to help us move forward! Please keep praying and never give up!! Someday God may have a “miracle girl” for us to call our own. Love, Mommy
Thank you Chapman family for giving our family hope to adopt! You have set the bar high and poured out a tremendous amount of resources that give families hope all over the world. We are honored that God directed us to America World Adoption (your agency, too) and even though we did not adopt from China like we first had planned….God had our precious Zoie waiting for us in Africa. Thank you for your ministry, your support, your encouragement and your faithfulness to advocate for orphans!!
I can't wait to share my hero #4!!!
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
- On September 5, 2005, I was flipping through the pages of a People Magazine and I noticed a beautiful photograph of a huge movie star and her recently adopted daughter. Roger and I were at the “talking” phase at that time, but still had not made any plans yet to adopt a child. We had no idea where to adopt or who would help us. I cut out this article and saved it in my Bible (I still have it) just in case.
My second adoption hero ... who exemplifies awareness, is Angelina Jolie!! For me, I knew in my heart, if this actress could adopt, maybe so could we!! We had no idea about the process, but I finally had one name of one adoption agency that we could trust. Regardless if you agree with Angelina’s career, you CAN’T disagree with the fact that she has helped spread incredible awareness concerning adoption all over the world. She did something only a superstar could do ... splash photographs in every major magazine and interviews about the problem of millions of orphans in need. She has adopted from countries that still have their doors shut tight, but they let her in!! It’s incredible the resources she has poured into making the world aware and understand that there is a way you can make a difference!
Just like her character in the movies, she is a real-life Lara Croft. We have this strong, independent, intelligent, passionate, independent woman who has let us watch action packed adventures, battling the bad guys, eliminating any obstacles that stands in her way, and in the end discovers treasure in 3 third world countries: Cambodia, Ethiopia and Vietnam!! Bravo!!!
- Thank you Angelina Jolie for being passionate about orphans & helping the public *awareness* of children's needs all over the world!! I hope we can all join you in helping spread the news...
My hero #3 coming soon!!
Monday, April 20, 2009
My first adoption hero...who exemplifies courage, is Randi Shetley. She and her amazing husband, Shane received a referral for 2 sibling boys from Awassa, Ethiopia in 2001. Randi’s mom owned an adoption agency, but this was brand new territory for them. Americans had rarely had a successful experience adopting from Ethiopia. They waited 15 months to travel to Addis Ababa to bring the boys home, but tragically, they lost the boys to circumstances that were out of their control. The day they heard the news, they were shocked to hear they received another referral for a boy-4 and a girl-6
This time, Randi completed her new paperwork and updated her home study in record speed and 3 months later headed to Addis Ababa to officially complete the adoption procedure…ALONE!! The family that traveled right before her had spent 10 weeks in Ethiopia to bring their children home, so she knew she was heading into the unknown... the road less traveled, literally. Every morning she headed to court, but was turned away day after day due to the judge out fishing (for real!!) She hit every obstacle imaginable during her extended time in Ethiopia, but never gave up. Finally meeting the judge, he took one look at her completed authenticated dossier and threw it in his garbage can…yelling at her (and I quote) NO GOOD…START OVER!! She left his office completely discouraged, but not destroyed. She would pull out all the tools she had and start again. I always had a hard time believing this part of her story, but it was true. My adoption hero started over from scratch in a foreign country. For all of us that understand the incredible amount of paperwork that is involved…this was truly a heroic, action packed, massive undertaking. Randi never gave up. She trusted in God to help her through every single detail and He showered her with mighty miracles every step of the way. She was protected from the corruption at every level, but slowly… page-by-page, she completed a new dossier. She felt beat up, bruised and punished emotionally, but in the end, after spending over 3 weeks in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, she WON the race and came home with her beautiful children!!!
I met Megin, her first week in America. My husband and I were helping out at Kindergarten indoor recess, due to the rainy day. I recognized her immediately as the precious girl recently adopted from Ethiopia, but had no idea her new mom was going to be my hero:) I smiled at her & she immediately came over and sat in my lap. I was in heaven. I signaled for Roger to come over and say hi. He smiled and reached out to pat her shoulder. All of a sudden, this quiet calm little darling let out a blood-curling scream & went into hysterics. Poor Rog waved his hands up in the air, so no one would think he was pinching the screaming child.
Beautiful, courageous, radiant, vivacious Megin is now 12 years old and is our adopted niece. She still teases Roger by screaming at the top of her lungs when she sees him!!!! LOL
My adoption hero started a ripple effect in our community. There are dozens of families that are adopting from Ethiopia, but I have had the rare opportunity to know one of the *pioneers* who helped pave the way to make these adoptions even possible. Thank you for being so brave and strong and passionate about the children of Ethiopia. Thank you for making a difference. Thank you for holding my hand through the crazy ups & downs, never doubting for a second that we would bring Zoie home.
Randi & Shane currently live in Kansas with their Awesome 5 children …2 biological and 3 gifts from Ethiopia!!!!
We love you!!!
*Please share YOUR adoption hero story*
I can't wait to share my Adoption Hero #2
Sunday, April 19, 2009
All you need to do is cut & paste the HTLM code provided. This will allow families to find the Reunion Blog with one click!
Even if you don't plan on making it to the reunion, help us spread the word:))
THANK YOU for supporting this special event.
Saturday, April 18, 2009
In my next 5 posts, I'm going to share with you my 5 Adoption Heroes. The individuals that inspired me, as well as others, to join the incredible community of adoption. I want to honor my adoption heroes and celebrate their compassion, their perseverance, their strength, their faith, their hope, their passion, their courage to make a difference for children in need in their own community and all around the world.
On Monday, I will share with you who my first adoption hero is.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
* Fact #2: Cuts and sores on feet can lead to serious infection.
* Fact #3: Often, children cannot attend school barefoot.
* Fact #4: In Ethiopia, approximately one million people are suffering from Podoconiosis, a debilitating and disfiguring disease caused by walking barefoot in volcanic soil.
* Fact #5: Podoconiosis is 100% preventable by wearing shoes.
The impact a pair of shoes has on a child can be life-changing. Help TOMS raise awareness this April 16th. Take off your shoes today!!!
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Over two years ago, Rog & I started the process for a baby girl from China. We had just finished our homestudy & social worker visit. Rules changed & one in particular was so gray. We no longer could move forward. We never dreamed God would take us to Africa, but we are forever grateful that He knew all along!!! We just needed to be obedient & keep our hearts free to do what He wanted for our family. God knows the deepest desires of our heart. Now, after all these years, we'll get to love our sweet niece....a beautiful treasure from China!!
"A" we already LOVE you!!!
Now I'm working on them to start their blog:)))
Monday, April 13, 2009
Drawn from Water from Drawn From Water on Vimeo.
This is from Joanna Branson.
Please click on her name and read her newsletter to be totally blown away at God's amazing love for all He created!.....and watch this video about the Mingi children sentenced to die because of evil superstition by their tribal leader leaders....the very ones put in charge to protect them.
Sunday, April 12, 2009
The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:17, "When someone becomes a Christian, he becomes a brand new person inside. He is not the same anymore. A new life has begun! (Living Bible) Experiencing the resurrection power of Jesus in you life literally changes everything!
Our heart's desire is that you will experience all that God has for you today!!"
God Changes Everything!
(JRA Easter Sunday)
We give thanks today for our family and friends, but most of all the ultimate gift of love. In America, everyone celebrates Easter. It's a holiday, its a day to spend with family, its a time of renewal. Spring. Saturday night, my family spent the evening roasting hot dogs, playing with cousins and decorating eggs. Its tradition. We love stuffing plastic eggs, anticipating the big bunny hopping to our home and hiding baskets full of candy & tiny treasures.
I will never forget the day Awesome M asked me if there was a Santa Claus. I knew the time had come to confess. After hearing the "secret" he gave me a sad puzzled look and with a tear in his eye (those big ones that just hang there ready to drop) asked, Mom, does this mean that there is no Easter bunny, too? Ohhhhh my mommy heart hurt telling him that secret too. He finally looked at me and said calmly. If its OK, can I start getting chocolate eggs in my basket. I really hate jellybeans!!
Adoption and Redemption go hand in hand. The best way for me to share God's great love for us is the verse, John 14:18. Jesus said, I will not leave you as orphans. I will come to you. We walked the streets of Addis Ababa and saw first hand the pain and poverty. We saw precious young mothers with babies tied to their backs helpless. My husband would gently gesture for these mothers to follow him inside tiny markets lining the streets. He would buy them food and leave them alone to eat. Most never said a word, but always smiled with gratefulness. What does being an orphan mean?
Lost. No home. No family. The truth is we are all orphans. Every single one of us are orphans. Without the sacrifice Jesus made on the cross, we are all lost, we are all without a family, we need love, we need redemption. When you believe in the miracle of Jesus. When you accept His gift of love. When you let go of everything and give Him your life. We become a child of the King. We are chosen. We are adopted into an eternal family. This new life is more incredible that you can even imagine!!
God Changes Everything!!
Saturday, April 11, 2009
Zoie was born in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. We had the honor of staying there for 2 weeks. At the time, we did not feel like it was a honor, but now understand the value of the time we spent in our daughter's homeland. We were able to see and touch and feel and hear and taste Ethiopia. We continue to stay in contact with our ET Dream Team...Duni, Rachel, Furtuna, Robel. (nannies & caregivers, too) They were our constant in all the craziness that comes with adoption. Our friends, Rachel & hubby are home now in TN. The rest remain there and help every AW family make it to the end of the marathon. The race is hard, so hard, but the treasure is worth the pain. Thank you for ALL the work you do for children and forever families.
Amharic. It's the beautiful language our daughter would have learned to speak .
We cherish these 3 words... Jesus- Eyesus, Family-Beteseb, Love- Feker
As we prepare for celebrating Easter, please keep the ones in Ethiopia, our family in your prayers. They make a difference for love, for family, for Jesus.
**AWAA has 10 families (its a record:) in Ethiopia this week bringing home their children. WOW!
Friday, April 10, 2009
15 months is our lucky number:)
I walked at 15 months. Awesome M & H both walked at 15 months. Zoie is soooo close. She walks everywhere, but needs a finger to help. Her favorite things right now: walks outside, tearing up the kitchen cabinets, eating plant dirt, singing, dancing, eating top 5...cheese, bread, bananas, cherrios & baba (OK...she's still on the BRAT diet) and her family. She's saying new words: Tate-doggie, cheese, up, out, sissy, zozo...we say coffee-Zoie says "hot" (I know, that is so smart:)
We are blessed today!!
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Roger and I were soooooo excited the first time we took Awesome M camping. He was 1 and full of life. We wanted to start him out young and start the bonding right off the bat. I remember like it was yesterday packing the car with all the camping goods and our brand new Coleman tent. We thought of everything. We interviewed several avid campers and decided on the perfect spot for our 1st trip. The drive was long and winding. I remember feeling car sick, but my joy of camping held me over thru the 4 hr. drive to camping paradise.
It was beautiful. The best spot. We set up our camp site in a flash. We had a few tumbles trying to figure out how to balance out the tent, despite the slight lean...we did it!! I headed to the "potty" but stopped short. The not-so-clean, super nasty toilet was crawling with bugs. Dear Lord it was disgusting!! Refusing to *go* there...I insisted Rog drive us to the nearest clean restroom. There was noooo near clean spot. Where was the gas station? Where was the park restrooms with showers? I realized quickly I would really have to rough it up!! 100% nature calling in the wild outdoors.
The night was long and everything went wrong. It started raining. A motorcycle pack rolled in and set up camp right next to our tent. A college group catty corner partied all night. It was cold and wet and loud and miserable. I begged Rog to go out there and tell the college kids and motorcycle gang to BE QUIET!! We have a baby trying to sleep in here!!! Long story short, we packed up our brand new tent and all our camping goods in the dark and headed for home. We were mad and really sleepy. I felt like a total failure. What happened? I was a camping pro. Our family bonding depended on this camping trip to be a success.
We learned a lesson. Our un-camping trip WAS a success. We bonded. We had our memories. We could laugh at the messes. Maybe we weren't cut out to be campers, but we were cut out to be a family. A family that loves being together. We never popped that tent up again, but we did invest years later in a pop up camper. We are now the Gibson 5 and I cherish our
memory-making-messes deeper than ever. I guess the moral of this story...you can bond pretty much doing anything as a family. Trouble will find you where ever you go:)
Make every memory count!!
Ooops....I forgot to ask. Bloggy friends, I'd really love to hear your favorite memory-making-messes.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Praying for ALL her children!!
Sunday, April 5, 2009
I realized I was starving for fellowship and pressed the gas a little faster. Its been a long two weeks home with a sweet sick baby.
I need my friends. I need to worship. I need to serve.
The church was decorated with all things girlie. They didn't miss a single detail...it was going to be a night to remember. The most exciting thing for me was our Cherish Kids Expo. JRA is advocating for foster care, domestic & international adoption. My passion. I'm so honored to be a part of a team & church family who are serving the needs of children *in need* in my community and around the world.
Giddy gals everywhere...women of all ages buzzing in the halls. Here we go...the doors opened at 7pm sharp...I zipped in to save seats. I'm thankful to sit and relax. I was soaking in the pure joy of the event with some of my very favorite girlfriends...Juju & Kim. Chocolate, princess music, worship, prayer, Prince Dance-A-Lot, laughs, incredible speaker, new sisters in the Lord...need I say more:) During one of the songs, a lump stopped me from singing and the Lord captured my thoughts.
I drifted to the place that's so hard for me to go. I'm praying for a young woman I deeply care for. I think about her during the quiet moments, but this time I felt a longing that I had not experienced before. I started sobbing. The love I feel for a women I have never met, takes my breath away. I see her everyday. I see her stunning eyes, her perfect lips and precious nose. She is my hero, the vessel that God used to create my daughter. I wept that she could not share this special night with me. She is my friend. Does she know my Savior? She has taught me more about love, sacrifice, courage..she is true beauty. I wish I could personally thank her for allowing me to have something so priceless. Selfless. Determined. Dignity.
We are Mothers and love the same daughter.
I pray that Zoie will know Truth. That she is fearfully and wonderfully made.
She is chosen.
Oh, I am thankful for a special night to give thanks for the powerful women in my life. That have shaped and helped mold me. I'm grateful for a night to renew my energy and spirit. A night to remember I'm a daughter of a King.
The message was clear....It's Time. It's Time for us to embrace the treasures He has created for us. It's Time to let go of the things we hold so precious. It's Time to make a difference. It's Time to seek clear direction. It's Time for inconvenience.
It's Time to live radically. It's Time to celebrate Everyday!!
Friday, April 3, 2009
Zoie's new word of the week....Sissy!!! She has been working so hard to teach "Zizi" to blow kisses, so this morning when Z said sissy, blew her a kiss & waved goodbye....lots of melting:))) We love having a baby in the house!!!
Thursday, April 2, 2009
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Jamesriverwomen's RALLY "IT'S TIME "
April 3 @ 7PM (Main Auditorium)
Come see me @ 8:30PM at "Cherish Kids" booth...foster care, international & domestic adoption info available:))
A gathering of women for a spectacular evening!Last year, our hearts connected with a beautiful woman and powerful speaker-Alicia Chole. We are thrilled that she'll be back with another dynamic message from her heart! You will be encouraged, uplifted, and inspired to flourish in every avenue of life. You won't want to miss the yummy treats, pampering, and after rally fun! Free childcare provided for moms with children walking - 10 years.Childcare opens April 1, 2009. Contact Denise Wicks at 417-581-5433 or firstname.lastname@example.org
As a speaker Alicia Britt Chole delights and disarms her audience with genuineness and vulnerability, captivates their attention by wrapping vivid illustrations around life-changing truths, and delivers her message with conviction (and a good dose of humor!). Her messages awaken hearts and minds to consider the intimacy and intensity of God.Alicia Britt Chole speaks to leaders, professionals, women's groups, ministers, and college students concerning spiritual life, self-deception, conflict, disillusionment, commitment, choices, mission, and mentoring. Loved by young and old, Alicia's unique and refreshing style connects with seekers and leaders, modern and post-modern alike from a wide variety of Christian traditions.Today, Alicia Britt Chole and her fun-filled tribe of five live in the country off a dirt road in a home devoted to reflection and writing.